Dating
Tips
To
make your dating experience a truly rewarding one we have
compiled a few tips which we hope will help you to apply at
various times.
Tips for your first date:
(1)
Be creative and enterprising. Take a little time to think
it through. A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two
and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted. Then
again, you don't want to be stuck staring at each other without
a topic of conversation. A daytime meeting takes the heat
off.
(2)
Lunch or coffee is a good start. Even better - a trip
to the zoo. Plenty of topics for discussion without having
to deal with issues like: "What happened to your last relationship?"
And you can avoid the usual casual chit-chat like: "My wife
is still missing." "I met my first boyfriend on the prison
bus." etc etc.
(3)
Clothing :Clothing is not optional. Wear clothes that
make you feel good. New clothes always help - but if not new,
be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that's
not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel
the most comfortable and still look presentable.
(4)
Start a conversation: Make the first move: Move closer
to the person you want to meet. Say hello! The best opening
line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question,
ask for help, state an opinion. Use props: Never leave home
without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They
encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start
talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry,
a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion,
interesting ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.
(5)
Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable. Be the host: Change
your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not
the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee.
Find something nice about your date and compliment her or
him.
But mean it. Don't just say, "Nice shoes, Linda." "Swell belt,
Greg."
Find something nice. If it's painfully difficult to come up
with something that you sincerely like about the person, you
shouldn't be out with them in the first place.
(6) Listen: You have two ears and one mouth because
you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is
a true art. Your dating partner will be drawn to you. Everyone
loves to be heard.
Listen actively to what your date says. Don't interrupt. While
your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what
you're going to say when it's your turn.
(7)
Manners and/or Kindness: Thank the other person for the
date - always, without exception. Good manners are still in
style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense.
Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
Focus on the Other Person - pay attention to your date.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships,
work, bank robberies. Be THERE.
Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don't complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you're not
going to be at your best.
(8)
Eye contact: Make eye contact, but please look your partner
in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance
away. Don’t stare – it’s a turn off.
(9)
Compliment: Compliment your partner. The best compliments
have the element of surprise. The "flirtee" will know that
you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be
honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment
the best response is merely, Thank You!
(10)
Smile: It is contagious. It will make you so much more
approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people
to you. You will be a people magnet.
(11)
Have fun: Be playful, lighthearted and spontaneous. Show
your vulnerability.
Try
it with a little bit of your own. Remember every person and
situation is different!!
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